(Original image via Chrystal Cienfuegos Photography)
I’ve always loved taking trips down memory lane. Now that I’m a mom it’s become even more special. So when Facebook’s “On This Day” app notifies me of what I posted years before, I get ready to have all the feels.
Last week, the app took me back to the day I announced that we were pregnant with our second child.
With our oldest, we were so excited that we announced the day after we found out. The second time around, we kept it to ourselves until we were clear of the first trimester. We had 12 weeks of joy, 12 weeks of planning, 12 weeks of just obsessing over our new baby.
That is, we had that until we told people.
We received so many reactions, filled with support and love. On the other hand, we also received some that we could have done without. While we did a pretty good job of handling the negativity (in my case this meant not ripping off everyone’s head…pregnancy hormones are CRAY), our memory of sharing the great news is slightly tainted because of it.
Here is a list of things you should never say to a mom who’s been around the block:
1. Really? You’re having another baby?
No, I’m totally kidding! We just said it for the attention and laughs.
2. Keep this up and you’ll have yourself a basketball team!
3. Wow, another baby. How many more do you plan on having?
We’re actually aiming for a mini army.
4. You do know how that happens, right?
5. You need to learn how to say no.
Hmm. You know I could do that but….
6. I guess you guys don’t know what condoms are, huh?
7. Now you really won’t have a life!
Wait…you mean to tell me I can’t binge watch Netflix or eat ice cream in bed anymore?!
8. How are you going to handle another baby?
Been there, done that. We’ve got this.
The list could go on. Honestly, no matter what your opinion, the only thing that should be said after someone announces their 2nd, 3rd, 4th etc pregnancy is any variation of the following:
- Congratulations to you/your family
- How exciting
- What a blessing
- I’m so happy for you
And that’s it! It’s so simple. If you can’t bring yourself to leave it at congratulations, just don’t say anything at all. Welcoming a baby is a pretty big deal and trust me, the parents will remember when you tried to rain on their parade…even if you thought you were just being funny.